I am so amazed of how different people can be, of how experiences mold people on who they are at present and who they may be in future.
I met a person who was born in a not so rich background yet who knows nothing about houseworks. Never knew how to cook, don’t know how to clean the house even on weekends and don’t know how to tidy of her own things. If she ever sees someone clean, she doesn’t seem to be bothered nor help at all. I so wonder what made her that way and what could possibly ever happen if she marries, how can she cope with married life, well I am not married for one. But in the hope of understanding her, I came to realize to just don’t care at all.
Another person I met, not to a personal level, but I was amazed because I never thought she was the person who she was. I thought she was just a commoner but little did I know that she was the baby of the family. The favorite, the most wanted, the loved and the most taken cared of, at least that’s how I see how her family treats her. She came to a far away place just to be on her own even if it meant more expense to her family than hers.
The two examples are exacly opposite, one is fed by experience driven by circumstance yet choose her own way of dealing things while the other chose to experience to learn things not driven by any circumstances. In these 2 examples we can see one is rich and maybe the other one is middle class. Reality clearly says that we choose our path based on what we don’t want to do or what we want to gain.
I on the other hand is fed by reality of the world that not all things are free. That you need to do something to gain something, that if you do nothing you gain nothing as well. I was not the well loved, the most wanted nor the well taken cared of, I was the total exact opposite. And that’s probably the reason why I do things on my own and why I can live on my own. It’s because eversince I am used to feeding myself and taking care of myself. I would have really wanted to be the second person but I am bounded by what we have which is nothing at that point in time. That’s the bad thing but the good thing is I can appreciate every little thing I do and treasure it for what it’s all worth.
Experiences are indeed our teacher, it all depends if we take and grab or fed-up and let go and don’t learn at all. We are the product of our own experiences. You may be the person what others would want for but they need to dig a whole to discover something worthwhile. You may be an easy person, but they need to adjust to the way you lived your life.